My experience as a pastor and a parishioner tells me that women tend to be more active in the church than men. Certainly there are exceptions, but usually women vastly outnumber the men in their congregations. Why is this?
Men, like women, can have valid reasons for limiting their worship attendance: work schedules, medical problems, caring for an again parent…the list could go on.
But there might be another reason: One explanation for men’s absence in the church might be that men often think that Christianity automatically means the surrender of masculinity. This is the opinion of men like Friederich Nietzsche, an influential atheist philosopher of the late 1800’s. He adopted the unbiblical view that Christianity was a religion for the weak. Our culture’s embrace of the “self-made” man has caused many to see self-reliance as the highest good, a message that is the opposite of the gospel. These views of masculinity are false, but they are widely accepted. The popularity of these ideas can mean that many men view Christianity and manhood as irreconcilable.
Jesus was certainly not timid (Matt. 23), nor was He naïve or feminine. Instead, He willingly went to the cross because of His strength of purpose. Jesus is the ultimate man, the second Adam who fully exhibits all that God wants men to be (1 Cor. 15:45). Men find true manhood only in serving the perfect man, Jesus Christ.
True manliness is Christlikeness.